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As a confidence coach, I keep hearing the words “I’m Stuck” more and more, people in fear of moving forward seems more evident, a continuation of the fear that society has lived with in the last couple of years and with the media’s help, in blowing that fear out of proportion, people feel stuck!

It’s not like the fear is now over, it’s taken a social turn, increasing insecure behavioural patterns and casting a negative hangover on society, because uncertainty is still in the air and if it’s not fear of the pandemic, it’s now become a fearful and freedom-less existence.

When that happens, people don’t move forward as readily, as creatively or as joyfully, which affects their lives, their decisions and their growth, they turn inwards and start asking, “what’s wrong with me” They don’t realize what an enormous effect that negative social energy has on their individuality and their belief system.

At the end of the day, what has occurred has resonated in leaving behind a dulled-down belief system and there is nothing wrong with the individual, he or she has bought into a feeling without even knowing it’s happening and now they are living in that feeling, but it’s only a feeling and we can all change how we feel because the way we feel is a belief system, nothing more.

We are the ones creating that belief system, we are the ones creating “any” belief system, it’s not coming from outside of us, no matter how things are out there, we can choose not to be affected by them. The situation doesn’t change, but how we react to the situation can change.

Once we become aware that we can change our belief system, that’s all we have to do, be aware that we can, we don’t need to do anything about it, just the awareness that you are always living your thinking can change the habit and result in more clarity.

With clarity, far more is possible, as now there are no obstacles and your mind is in a more creative state, even if nothing has changed, your belief system has and what seemed impossible while you were feeling fearful by living your thinking, creates new possibilities, infinite possibilities, because you have changed your belief system.

Everything changes once you realize that you actually have full control of your feelings, knowing that all your feelings are coming from you, not from anywhere else.

At first, there are a lot of “but’s” related to this, though in actual fact it’s more simple than we think to be the in charge of our thoughts because thoughts can be our enemy or our friend, we can choose them any way we please and paint them as big, as bright and as positive as we want to.

Let’s face it, there’s no benefit in being stuck, it stops you from reaching your potential, on every level and takes away your freedom, whereas being aware that the feeling of being stuck is your own belief system, opens many more doors and gives you more clarity and when you can achieve clarity without worry or fears, your life changes.

Nothing happens to you, everything happens from you.

Leon Kammer is a Confidence and Communication Coach leon@leonkammer.com

When we are kids, we are not aware of our emotional needs, we accept our environment as it is, because we are born into it and don’t know any other way.

So we accept what we are given emotionally and move into adulthood with what we have and know, becoming hard-wired with that same emotional belief system and the same values that we experienced as kids, only to find out as adults, that we are not fulfilled and often don’t know why.

It’s only when we see our coaches or therapists that it’s brought to our attention, that we don’t love ourselves enough, or we lack self-worth, perhaps self-confidence, or a number of things that cause us to live an unfulfilled life, not reaching the heights that we could have and not living our full potential, blocked by the hard wiring of negative emotions that we grew up with. 

That hard-wired belief system becomes the pattern for our lives, that we carry for years, it becomes our identity and how we operate and accept life.  

But if this is only a belief system that we carry from our childhood then we can change that belief system to anything we want, we can unravel that hard wiring and believe something else.

If it means giving ourselves the gifts that we were not given as kids, then we have to give ourselves those gifts to fill the void that needs to be filled, like self-love, self-recognition, and recognising our values and our qualities.

Giving ourselves these gifts consciously on a daily basis, whether we write them down or meditate on them will change that hard-wired belief system and rewire our beliefs with thoughts that inspire us and allow us to become the best version of ourselves by unblocking those negative beliefs that we have been carrying around and living with for years.

The brain does not differentiate between negative or positive thoughts, which means that whatever we feed our brain on a constant basis is what is then stored in our subconscious mind and we begin to operate in that belief system.

The subconscious mind can store our new belief patterns because it operates on what we feed it, so feeling good about who we are is nothing more than feeding the mind with good feelings. 

It doesn’t matter how you create good feelings, but feeling good is a great start in creating a new belief system.

You can’t feel negative and expect to change your belief system, so start the process by doing whatever it takes to feel good and then you can really change anything!

How often do you have the feeling of joy? Because that’s what joy is, a feeling and it’s a feeling you can have regardless of what is going on in your life, you can always find joy and gratitude in something.

So why do we choose misery and chaos and screw up our day, or sometimes our lives.

Is it because anxiety, fear and worry are our go-to feelings and we have been doing it for so long that we know no other way.

If joy is a feeling and anxiety, fear and worry are also feelings, why don’t we choose joy instead, because feelings are like magnets, good feelings manifest good things and it also works the other way.

Here’s the interesting bit, you don’t have to do anything about bringing in the feeling of joy, only be aware that you can.

The subconscious mind can’t wait to trigger those negative thoughts and emotions that take you away from feeling joy.

You don’t have to try to find out how or why you only have to be aware that you can choose your feelings and like anything, this becomes a habit and through your own awareness you can change your habits.

This quote sums it all up:
The Universe is asking, show me your new vibrations and I will show you miracles.

Leon Kammer is a Life and Confidence Coach – leon@leonkammercoaching.com

Believe in yourself more often.

There is no need in feeling good in small bursts, what are your fears? What is stopping you and what are you afraid of? Why are you limiting yourself, why are you settling for less?

As a confidence and career coach, I keep coming across this many times, people settling for less.

You have to start believing in your own potential, staying in the feeling of that possibility, because it’s all about connecting to that feeling of what it would be like to have or be what you want and not settling for less, whether it’s a career, a relationship or a business.

Kids do this really well, we lose the natural touch as we become older, though we never lose the ability to tap into it. We block those feelings as adult life takes over, yet they are always there to tap into, they never disappear, so get excited, be a kid again, it’s a good start!

You can work as hard as you like, if you don’t have that feeling of genuine belief, confidence and excitement and expect the best outcome, it won’t happen.

The people that get where they want to go, don’t do it only through hard work, they feel and believe their vision, with laser beam certainty. They see it before it comes into reality…..

It’s about experiencing that feeling as though it’s already here and staying in that feeling, so it becomes a habit and you can stay in that feeling longer each time. Keep practising, get excited about it.

That feeling is what will create your connection to what you want.
Without that feeling you can’t ignite that energy, you can’t connect to what you want.

Commit to this, create that energy, align to that feeling of what you want and you will ignite the energy that will take you there.

You can’t fake this energy, you need to align with the feeling as though what you want is already yours, it already exists.

Energy can’t disappear, if you had it as a kid, then it’s still there…..tap into it.

Leon Kammer is a Confidence and Communication Coach leon@leonkammercoaching.com

ANXIETY

One of the things I’ve been talking to a lot of people about and obviously also having dealt with it myself, is anxiety.
Not only dealing with anxiety, but responding to anxiety or even better not responding to anxiety.

Here’s what I mean, when you are creating unnecessary anxiety in your life, regardless of what you have chosen to be anxious about, it’s like your brain wants to recognise something and decides to attach to it.
I call it anxiety ahead of time, worrying about something that could or might happen, and anticipating the anxiety about it.

You’re actually feeling anxiety, because you’re anticipating something will go wrong, or you will do something you don’t want to do, or the situation will worsen. You’re writing your own outcome and reacting to something that may play out in a totally different way than what you are creating in your mind.

It doesn’t matter what it is, you start thinking about it ahead of time and you start building up your own anxiety.
And this literally happens to those of us that are anxiety producers, sort or anxiety manufacturers.

It’s almost like our brain says, “Time to go to work and create anxiety. That’s my job today.
And it doesn’t matter what it is, it will start attaching itself to something in the now or the future will create a story about the situation, ultimately creating anxiety.

Once you know this is what your brain loves to do, you will be able to observe it without getting too attached to it, and without acting on it.
So as soon as you feel that and you’re aware of that, pay attention, observe it and then you will know your brain is actually manufacturing anxiety with thoughts you are having. When you start thinking of it as a manufacturing line and imagine that is your brain, thought after thought after thought, with one goal, producing anxiety.

So whatever you’re thinking or anticipating, that you feel uncomfortable about your brain say’s , that’s the perfect ingredient for me to produce anxiety. And now fear and anxiety set in and we freak out.
Awareness of your thoughts and the knowing that you don’t have to respond to them, is the beginning to a more peaceful life.

Leon Kammer is a Confidence and Communication Coach leon@leonkammer.com

One of the things I’ve been talking to a lot of people about and obviously also having dealt with it myself is anxiety.

Not only dealing with anxiety but responding to anxiety or even better not responding to anxiety.

Here’s what I mean, when you are creating unnecessary anxiety in your life, regardless of what you have chosen to be anxious about, it’s like your brain wants to recognise something and decides to attach to it.

I call it anxiety ahead of time, worrying about something that could or might happen, and anticipating the anxiety about it.

You’re actually feeling anxiety because you’re anticipating something will go wrong, or you will do something you don’t want to do, or the situation will worsen. You’re writing your own outcome and reacting to something that may play out in a totally different way than what you are creating in your mind.

It doesn’t matter what it is, you start thinking about it ahead of time and you start building up your own anxiety.

And this literally happens to those of us that are anxiety producers, like anxiety manufacturers.

It’s almost like our brain says, “Time to go to work and create anxiety. That’s my job today.

And it doesn’t matter what it is, it will start attaching itself to something in the now or the future and create a story about the situation, ultimately creating anxiety.

Once you know this is what your brain loves to do, you will be able to observe it without getting too attached to it, and without acting on it.

So as soon as you feel that and you’re aware of that, pay attention, observe it and then you will know your brain is actually manufacturing anxiety with thoughts you are having.

When you start thinking of it as a manufacturing line and imagine that it’s actually your brain, thought after thought after thought, with one goal, producing anxiety.

So whatever you’re thinking or anticipating, that you feel uncomfortable about your brain say’s , that’s the perfect ingredient for me to produce anxiety. And now fear and anxiety set in and we freak out.

Awareness of your thoughts and the knowing that you don’t have to respond to them, is the beginning to a more peaceful life.

Leon Kammer is a Confidence and Communication Coach leon@leonkammer.com